Believe it or not, the skills that you use when finding a sex date is not much different from the skills that you need if you want to get a promotion at work, or get a better job. You have to understand that when it comes to any kind of success in life, you have to deal with other people. I know this is probably bad news. I know you probably don’t want to hear it, but the truth is, other people have what you’re looking for. Whether you’re looking for members of the opposite sex to have a good time with, or you’re looking for a better job, better career opportunities, or you’d like to make more money, the keys to those problems are in the hands of somebody else. This is why it’s really important to pay attention to your social skills.
Now, a lot of guys think that picking up women is a simple matter of going down a checklist, or saying the right magic word and all of a sudden panties start dropping and legs start spreading and all that kind of bullshit. Well, I’m telling you, you have to make sure that your expectations and assumptions are realistic. The sad reality is that women are people, just like the hotty over here. Meaning, they are just like you, and you have to empathize and practice compassion so you can connect. They’re not objects that you have to mention some sort of magical mantra or magical password or magical phrase, and all of a sudden all these great things will happen. They don’t exist for you, they have their own agenda, they exist for themselves.
This is the first lesson guys need to learn when trying to take their pick up skills to the next level. It’s all about getting inside the head of the other person and understanding that person to such an extent that you will send that person the right messages. Otherwise, it’s simply not going to work. It’s all about being able to figure out people very quickly. There are different people all over the world, we all have different needs, we all come from different backgrounds, and we all have different experiences. Fine. You have to have a tremendous amount of patience to learn these differences, figure out certain patterns, and create shortcuts.